Getting Back Up – EP 41

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Read Bryan Goodwin‘s answer to Why is there so much struggle in life? on Quora

Main topic

How to get back up after being handed a defeat

Look at that failure as a learning experience. We all struggle and we all fall down. We fail at something. What do you do get back up or just lay there? Look at all the underdog stories. We root for rocky to get back up. We cheered when the US hockey team whooped up on the Communists. We celebrate the triumphs.

Yet we as people shy away from struggling. Our amygdala’s wants us to be comfortable and sadly we avoid the struggle. I do the same thing I know I need to get something done on the coaching business yet at the end of the day I will sit down and get lost in a video game. We all struggle with an obstacle. Mine is getting clients while yours could be more basic. Like finding food

The act of getting back up is a new struggle that you have done before and you get better at it each time. Look at a toddler learning to walk they fall and whack their head on the ground a few times. That is part of the process. Having a sore butt from landing on it so much. Yet, as they learn their legs get stronger their balance gets better they learn the fine motor skills needed to put one foot in front of the other.

People who struggle find the strength needed to go on. Picking yourself up often being knocked down is only part of the process. The rest of the process is getting back into the fight and learning how to get past the problem at hand

Sadly we focus on the struggle as being a bad thing when it is something that is to be viewed with honor and reverence.

I have started taking this stance with my kids. Let them struggle they are figuring it out. They will be better adults as they hunt for the answers. I am one who wishes I knew about the honor of struggling when they were younger. It would have saved a lot of headaches on my part.

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About Bryan Goodwin

I like being able to help people find their "why" and achieve the personal freedom they desire. Besides writing for Relaxed Male I also am a life coach. By helping men find the leader that is found in each and every one of us. I do this by encouraging men to get outdoors and find the balance they are missing. Realize that they need to be in contact with the outside as often as they can. It is not only good for them but for their families and relationships.

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