Well, last week didn’t go quite as planned. So I am taking a mulligan for another swing at anger.
I have always taken anger as being an almost useless emotion. in men self-improvement, we have to find a way to address this particular emotion. My original approach to anger was that it does nothing but cause more trouble than it fixes. As I have been learning about the value of emotions even anger has a purpose. The problem is when you mix anger with an action like aggression as mentioned in last weeks video with Tripp Lanier.
This week video is yet another Ted Talk, but we are talking to Russell Kolts who has a different angle for anger. He uses COmpassion focused therapy. Which sounds interesting in my book. since I think that the person you have to learn to be compassionate for is yourself. That whole thought is still being fleshed out so I am going to hold off of going deeper into that rabbit hole, yet it may be that Dr. Kolts and I are on the same road, because we are our own worst critic. So it stands to reason that you would be harder on yourself than anybody else.
As Dr. Kolts mentions at the beginning many people see anger and aggression with the sensation of being powerful and to a point is to understand how it can have that feeling. but many people also don’t like the feeling of lost control when they do lose it and start screaming and yelling and throwing stuff.
So let’s sit back and listen to what Russell Kolts has to say about using compassion access the ultimate form of strength.Why not thank Dr. Kolts for his talkClick To Tweet
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