Men talk to each other in a way that women and some modern males don’t understand. You hear talk of how toxic masculinity is the problem with society and part of that toxic masculinity is how men talk to each other. They mention how we tease young men as they start to develop facial hair and we suggest putting some milk on that peach fuzz and letting the cat lick it off. Some folks believe that is mean and hurtful. When in reality not exposing your son to those innocent taunts is setting him up for failure
We enjoy trash talk
Men like to talk trash. It is a means to build bonds and to test each other’s wit and how fast we can think on our feet. It is a fun and challenging skill to have. To be able to talk trash and then back it up, cause if you fail at walking the walk you will get piled on even worse. This way it teaches a man how, to be honest, and to not be boastful.
The ribbings are good for us
- They show the rest of the group that the new guy can take it.
- It is a means of understanding new guy
- It builds bonds
Men talk directly
Proper communication is direct. To hem and haw around the topic doesn’t serve anybody. Because what is implied by one man is easily misinterpreted by another guy. This is a skill nice guys have to fight off for the rest of their lives. it is so easy to fall back into the habit of beating around the bush that we lose the effectiveness of a good direct line of communication.
Men talk assertively
- Nice guys don’t like to talk assertively
- Grown boys communicate in three infective ways
- Passive
- Aggressive
- Passive-aggressive
We teach our boys how to handle their emotions by ribbing them. This helps boys grow thicker skin and not be overly sensitive.
Many people don’t like this kind of talk because of the following reasons.
they find it intimidating
they find assertive communication to be mean.
This is a load of shit. Quit promoting bullying. I can stand up for myself just fine and I don’t care for the ‘trash talk’. What you going to accuse me of being a grown boy who doesn’t like assertive language? I find the language I’m using here to be pretty damn assertive (accusing you of promoting toxic behavior). So if you find this message ‘mean’ or ‘intimidating’ then your are by your own definition a ‘grown boy’.
Interesting how you have gotten worked up over a set of thoughts. I would suggest you go and hang out with a group of men and see how toxic their actions really are. The misunderstanding of what masculinity is in your mind tells me how I got really close to something you are deathly afraid of finding out. I hope your day gets better and I am glad I was able to compel you to reach out and tell me your thoughts. They are fascinating every time.