So often we run into obstacles while living life. There are times that is ti so easy to just not “want to” anymore. There are instances where you struggle and think you are putting up a good fight when all of a sudden, smack life gives you a jab you were not expecting and it sets you on your tail.
What do you do? Well if you are like me, you may feel sorry for yourself, or wonder is everything you are trying to do even worth it? Maybe I am supposed to be a steering wheel jockey. Maybe that is my lot in life. It is easy to slip into a scarcity mindset, to go, “oh poor me, why does it have to be so hard for me? Why is it so easy for other people?”
I am struggling with this mindset as of now. Yet what keeps me going? This desire to see people happy. I want to people to know that the sucky parts are gonna blow chunks, big time. Yet they are there to teach us a lesson. I am struggling to figure out what that lesson is as of writing this post but I know there is a lesson there. I can’t find that lesson if I make excuses.
I can’t succeed if I don’t embrace the suck. I won’t ever be able to help all the people I want to help if I don’t figure out what the problem is and address the problem at the core of the lesson. What is the lesson? I don’t know yet. I all I do know is that I am struggling to even pay all my bills. I drive in the oilfield I should be making in the neighborhood of 45,000-60,000 a year. yet my paychecks are, at the moment, what a person making 20,000 a year bring home.
Am I suppose to be living leaner? Maybe? I don’t know how I am supposed to get any leaner than I am now. I don’t have Cable. In fact, I turned off Hulu and Netflix. Those were my entertainment budget. Yeah, can’t even afford $22 for entertainment right now. Besides my internet is off so really don’t need those services at the moment anyhow.
What do I really want to do in the middle of this sad story? I want to desperately tell you that its not my fault. I want to pass the buck and say it’s my employer’s fault they can’t find enough work for me to do. Yet that isn’t true. They are doing everything they can. The oilfield is just in a weird place right now. maybe the oilfield is done in Oklahoma. Maybe it is the elections that are gearing up and ready to invoke all the random chaos that happens when you have one unhelpful political side pitting its self against another useless political group.
What does this little tirade mean? well in reality nothing. I started to write about not making excuses and this whole train wreck came pouring out. Is it stress? probably. Is it frustration? Oh, most definitely frustrated. I want to have my coaching business up and running I would love to get out of this truck and talk to you men and let you know that you can do whatever you set your mind to. I would love to get a group of guys from across this great nation and have a camping trip with the whole purpose is to help you get past your anxiety and stress fo day to day life. Help you find your calling and overcome the limiting beliefs you have.
Those fears and anxiety that you feel are temporary. They don’t last and they are there to make you stronger. I will take this frustration and sadness and self-pity and learn how to mix it together and turn it into the needed jet fuel to propel me to the next level.
So while I am talking about getting rid of the excuse, I know I still have to learn how to stop making excuses I at least now know when I am making them. So while I still struggle with lying to myself. I would like for you to watch this video which has the wisdom of several very smart and successful folks who have the best advice I can dispense with today. Talk more on Wednesday.
I like being able to help people find their “why” and achieve the personal freedom they desire. Besides writing for Relaxed Male I also am a life coach. By helping men find the leader that is found in each and every one of us. I do this by encouraging men to get outdoors and find the balance they are missing. Realize that they need to be in contact with the outside as often as they can. It is not only good for them but for their families and relationships.