Since we are talking about adversity and how we need to face that adversity. One way people from many different cultures showed their youth that the struggle to overcome an obstacle is through a rite of passage. I thought it would be a good way to wrap up this interesting week by giving you some links on rites of passage.
How to Create your Own (Manly Style)
If you ever want to find out how to do something manly The Art of Manliness is a great site to turn to. Lots of guys do and rightfully so. In this post the author talks about what is a rite of passage, why these rites are good, then covers the hows of making your own rite of passage.
In their article, they talk about how to Choose your challenge. You want to have your rite of passage be tough but not impossible. It is to stretch your belief in yourself. If it isn’t a challenge then, why go through the trouble?
From there you commit to the event and you let people know when you will be performing this rite. Then the last step is to have a time limit. Like any goal, you have to give it a deadline or it won’t get done.
Go on a 3 Day Vision Quest
The Vision quest is to help a person find their path. What are they needing to know? They are seeking direction and purpose in their life. So many times they go to their Shaman and seek a vision quest.
For modern times it may be a little difficult for you to go on a vision quest in the middle of the week. So Here is a way you can have a Vision quest with a little modern twist.
Another view on how to have a modern rite of Passage
This link is created by Jayson Gaddis. I heard of this blog through the New Man Podcast hosted by Tripp Lanier
In this post-Jayson talks about the Call for the adventure of going on a rite of passage. many men get this overwhelming desire to do something dangerous. Get the blood pumping and feel that exhilaration of the unknown.
Jayson then covers that there is the separation from your comforts. This is looked at as you pealing away the old you. Much like how an insect sheds out outer shell. This is so that you can grow.
Then there is the initiation. We as a society have shied away from initiations because they are viewed as hazings. Yet initiations are often full of celebrations. In high school, we have high school initiations where the freshmen were kidnapped Forced to wear their underwear outside of their clothes and then they duck walked down the main street while the seniors cracked eggs on their heads and added a layer of shaving cream and baby oil to them. The whole town would come out to participate.
In the Navy, there is a WOG day. Depending on where you crossed the equator after going through an involved ritual of swimming through garbage and Kissing the slimy belly of the Royal Baby. So much goes on with this and is out of fun and then you have the honor of being called a Shellback.
Then there is the return to your world and you are then viewed in a different light because you have tackled a adversity and become a different person for it.
So there you go a list of rites of passages that you can do yourself What RIte are you thinking of doing? share it in the comment section below.
I like being able to help people find their “why” and achieve the personal freedom they desire. Besides writing for Relaxed Male I also am a life coach. By helping men find the leader that is found in each and every one of us. I do this by encouraging men to get outdoors and find the balance they are missing. Realize that they need to be in contact with the outside as often as they can. It is not only good for them but for their families and relationships.